I had a wonderful opportunity to visit a friend in her new home and play a round of golf in beautiful 84-degree weather. The day was magical . . . until I started what should have been a 2-1/2 hour trek home.
Then I encountered . . . .
Accidents: Four of them to be exact. It was during commute time. There were no “alternate routes” available. These four accidents would ultimately result in an additional 2 hours of travel time. I was frustrated. Then I was thankful. I was in a comfortable, safe car. I had no critical timeline in which I needed to be somewhere. I was not involved in any of the accidents. Pause. Patience. Perspective.
A slow driver: Honestly! They were driving 10 MPH under the speed limit. What’s up with that? I was tempted to do the ol’ flash the lights routine because I assumed it was some young whipper-snapper texting and not paying attention. Nope, it was an elderly couple looking at a map and trying to find their way. I would have felt horrible had I made their trek even more stressful by my impatience. Pause. Patience. Perspective.
A broken Frappuccino machine: I jumped off the freeway long enough to complete a coaching call with a very motivated client that I‘ve been working with for some time. After the call, I decided to treat myself to a frappuccino for the next 90-minute drive home. The sign said the frappuccino was 490 calories. That’s a lot of calories for a drink in my mind, but I decided to treat myself. Five minutes later the manager told me the machine was broken and he needed to refund my $5.62. I could have been upset, but honestly, I was relieved. I really didn’t feel good about it anyway. Pause. Patience. Perspective.
So, what did all of this teach me? The power of pausing, taking a second to engage with some patience, and thinking about a possible different perspective.
How would you benefit from practicing pause, patience, and perspective?
Most of us have heard that quote at some point in our lives. Patience isn’t something I’m particularly good at, but certainly something I continue to work on incorporating into my life every day.
I had an experience the other day that reminded me of how powerful a bit of patience can be.
My mom was visiting from out of town and we decided to experience the 3:00 elk feeding at Nelson Preserve at Suncadia Resort. We arrived at the feeding station about 3:30. No elk. A few cars were there already, but left about 10 minutes after we arrived. Clearly they couldn’t wait any longer for the majesty of nature to arrive.
About 3:45 two more cars arrived. They were clearly together. One gentleman came over and asked where the elk were. “Usually here at 3:00” he says. He turned away and headed back to his car. No more than 10 minutes later he signaled to his buddy that it was time to leave. They’d waited no more than 10 minutes. Patience was not a virtue they were exercising that day. Unfortunate, as no more than 5 minutes after they left, the elk started pouring in from the trees. It was amazing!
About 15 minutes later there were close to 60 head of elk enjoying the hay that Suncadia generously leaves for them. (Thanks Suncadia Resort for taking care of our furry friends!)
Suncadia Resort Elk Feeding January 28, 2017
Now, I don’t know what else those other folks had going, but I’m so glad that we had the patience to wait. It was a wonderful experience.